I quote from my friend’s fiance, who departed this world at a tender age of 29. He was wise; he was patient to share. “A man must love his woman more than she loves him. Only this will the relationship between them achieve equilibrium.”
When a man loves, he does not question the rationality nor the other matters in the relationship. Love is a feeling, the rest are problems or cases that have solutions to them. Empathy and understanding of a woman’s character is generally lacking in the male species; it is not within their capacity to spend time understanding and deciphering a woman’s heart. Love that men feel, overwrites mistakes that their other halves commit – it takes an apology, a sincere make-up and an assurance that she will not repeat it within her conscience means.
When a woman loves, she seeks to understand and decipher her man’s character, temper and quirky habits. It is of women’s nature to be in touch with feelings and emotions, dwell upon them and seek to understand dissonance. Women share their thoughts and emotions with like-minded individuals, and gain further insight into their interpretation of their men’s behavior. When a woman understands, she forgives her partner’s mistakes more readily.
When a woman loves a man more than he loves her – this upsets the equilibrium. Women in love are the most complicated creatures – if I dare say. Women think, ponder, scuttle among different explanations in their minds, fly into panic, worry and pain ever so fleetingly yet leaving a trail of the aftermath of their eratic thoughts. Men – not having the capacity to understand – seek to redress the problem through their typical male “solve it now, heed not their feelings” method. The lack of enough love for their women requires constand need to redress problems and dissonance in his life – which he has no capacity to deal with, in a Mar’s society.
That being said, it is a generalised sentence, but it made sense after all. Just like how Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus (yes, a book advocates that), the biological and psychological construct between both genders are as alike as black and white. Hundreds of books have been written to help men understand women, and vice versa. Each book seeks to glorify the gender they are in support of, and seeks to have their readers understand their chosen topics. (ie. have male readers understand females etc)
I say – believe in yourselves, remember why you two got together in the first place. Make communication the first priority in your life. That’s your golden key to a relationship. And by that, I do not guarantee marriage as an end, but it made me feel the power of love, sacrifice, talking and listening.
